Hello friend!
As I start closing in on C-Day (that stands for Cesarean Day when this baby will be escorted out of my abdomen by a talented, kind, and brilliant surgeon..Hi Jill!) I realize that I need to update MY Owner’s Manual.
Because, in the words of Ke$ha, it’s going down and I’m yelling TIMBER!
I’m nervous to have surgery
I’m nervous to give birth to another baby
I’m nervous this baby will try to come out of my undercarriage where he is NOT welcome
I’m nervous I’ll puke again after birth
I’m nervous about…lots of things! I’m having a freaking baby!
AND I know things now, many valuable things that I hadn’t known before (s/o Sondheim). So I’m using this knowledge I’ve gained through my lived experience, conversations with other parents, questions to my providers, etc and updating MY Owner’s Manual to be the latest edition for this season of life.
I now know that…
I need to be crystal effing clear on my needs in order to communicate them to others
If I assume people can read my mind, I won’t get what I actually need which means my family won’t either
I deserve to be taken care of and it’s safe for me to allow others to take care of me
AND I’ve spent the last 3.5 years training all of us how we can more presently, accurately, and considerately show up for a new mom/parent. Right? And I’m realizing that all of these resources I’ve made were created because I wanted them. I wanted them and couldn’t find them so I made them.
Pilates For Your Privates It seems insane to me that no one gives you actual details on HOW to utilize the pelvic floor beyond squeezing it. So I made 6 different online courses about it.
Myth of Motherhood the podcast. I listened to other mom podcasts and wanted to barf. I needed to hear the really real conversations that were unfiltered and unapologetic. So I started having those conversations and publishing them.
Pstprtm I found so many articles about the baby’s nutrition, but what about mine? And my movement milestones, socialization, development? So I curated them with my co-founders.
I wrote a book knowing that sharing my story would make at least one person feel more seen and understood in this insane world. No one asked me about my butthole, so I told them about it instead.
YOUR Owner’s Manual because we get one for our dishwasher and dustbuster, but not ourselves.
This isn’t my first rodeo and I’m carrying some hefty baggage with me this time AND I’ve created tools that can set me up for a different experience. So in addition to doing Pilates For MY Privates (yes, my pelvic floor still needs to train for this even though she’s not directly invited to the party) I also need MY Owner’s Manual which I can share with Jeremy and use to guide me through this inevitably insane experience of bringing a new person into the world and into our family.
And as I update/edit/recreate my manual, I’m inviting you to join me! You don’t need to be pregnant to do this. You don’t need a million dollars to do this.
All you need to do is…
Purchase YOUR Owner’s Manual The guide is $18 which is a good luck number!
SAVE THE DATE: FRIDAY, May 5th 12pm est for a Zoom Hang ← Click that link to add to your google calendar and cross your fingers I did that right!
In our zoom hang we will…
Share our experiences creating our manuals
Hang out with a community of like minded, judgment free, incredible people who don’t believe in TMI
Dance, obviously
Let me know if you have any other questions, comments, or concerns and I can’t wait to do this together!!!
Xo, Alissa