From all of the content I’m seeing it seems like everyone is…over mother’s day this year. I don’t want to add to the noise and you know how I feel about having to subscribe to the prescribed mother’s day antics, so I’m taking a different approach. I even recorded a bonus podcast episode about releasing expectations and entering the vortex this weekend! LISTEN HERE!
I don’t want to NOT recognize the day, but I also don’t need to add to the negativity. So…I’m going to share with you a few things that have meant a lot to me to read, see, experience recently.
This year Mother’s Day hits different. It may be related to what I shared about my relationship with my own Mom on episode 71 “You Don’t Need To BE A Mom To NEED A Mom” or the fact that I’m in a month 9 vortex of pregnancy.
A friend sent me this article in a pdf and as I read it I kept thinking “This feels so familiar and so comforting.” I then looked back and another friend had sent it to me during the last days of my pregnancy with Everett. It’s all about the profound state of “in between” the end of pregnancy is. And holy shit do I feel that. I’m not just physically slowing down, but everything inside me is slowing down. I planned to have a whole bunch of podcast episodes locked and loaded to publish through the summer and well…I think instead I will take a welcome pause. And while there is a HUGE part of me that feels like this is not acceptable, not allowed, and unprofessional there is a bigger, deeper, more attuned part of me that knows this is perfect.
My friend Lauren Behringer who is mom to Wes, brilliant esthetician, and founder/owner of Behrhaus send me her bundle called “The Retreat” and all I can say is OMFG. I already have her gua sha which I love (and so does Everett) so I added that to the mix and to say it was welcome is a huge understatement. I used her gorgeous body brush to exfoliate and promote circulation and fluid movement because I haven’t seen my ankle bones in a while and my sausage toes are cute and all, but uncomfortable. Then the magnesium scrub which is so perfectly smooth AND textured and then finished the job with her magnesium oil. It was the first night in a while where I had NO cramping in my calves and woke up without the same level of stiffness in my lower legs then I’d been experiencing. Anyway, I almost cried at what an impact this somewhat small ritual had on my wellbeing. I wrote to Lauren to tell her how much I appreciated it and she gave me a code to share with you! Use ALISSA15 at checkout and get ready for a good time. Get it for yourself, a friend, someone you love, whoever! This is an affiliate code and I want you to know that I only share stuff I actually use and love because I’m not here to waste either of our time. It’s too precious.
I love Bravo and Scandoval has been keeping me entertained although I wish I could binge the episode vs waiting for them to come out each week. Real Housewives of NJ have also been giving me life especially now that I live like in the area. There’s even a woman who has been going to the dance cardio class I love (and will resume later this summer) who looks like Danielle Staub and while it’s not her I think she’s def related and will get to the bottom of it in time.
I’ve been drinking liquid IV like a monster and Cadbury Dairy Milk chocolate bars are my current fave. Have you had them?
I have next to no expectations for the weekend as I am consumed with all of the things that come with being on the precipice of my life exploding again and meeting my second son. It’s…a lot. Hence why I’m A-Ok with taking a bit of a pause in my life which I don’t know that I’ve ever actually done…have I?
So I invite you to join me this weekend and let go of expectations, ask yourself where those expectations came from, and maybe join me in the vortex.
As always, I’ve got your back. I’ve got your front. And I’ve got your undercarriage.
Xo, Alissa
Oh! For paid subscribers next week begins a summer long series ALL about the pelvic floor. The who, what, where, when, why we should even give a shit about it. How our hormones change things, how childbearing plays into things, common experiences/symptoms, and my top tips to keep your undercarriage in tip top shape! I can’t wait to hear what you think :)