Hello hello!
So…it’s been A MONTH! A month full of newborn baby! And a month full of newborn ME! Which means a month filled with crying, diapers, feedings, transitions, cuddles, and more crying from ALL of us living in this house!
I can’t stop smelling C's head and marveling at how different everything is this time. EVERYTHING IS SO DIFFERENT!
As you probably know, I had a c section scheduled for baby C, but my water broke the morning of Memorial Day so he arrived a few days ahead of schedule. Which was GREAT because I was DONE being pregnant. I’d also been having a lot of anxiety and panic that I was going to go into actual labor and as you know from this podcast episode, I was not available for a vaginal delivery.
Anyway! While not on the scheduled date, C arrived via c section and a nurse exclaimed “What a chunker!” and my baby boy was here! It was a calm, peaceful, and healing experience which I’m not sure many people have said about a c section but I’m saying it. I LOVE MY C SECTION!
And I promise over the next few months I will go into more detail about some of this, but it will have to wait until I’m getting more than 3-4 hours of consecutive sleep. BUT! I do want to share some of the things that have blown and are blowing my mind…
I love a c section
I love depends diapers ( so much easier than a giant pad holding onto your undies for dear life)
Newborn baby heads smell absolutely intoxicating
Night Nurses are doing G-d’s work
My recovery from a major abdominal surgery is a walk in the park compared to my fourth degree tear
How much team building Jeremy and I have done in the past 3.5 years and seeing it all in action as we adjust to being parents of TWO
What a truly incredible human Everett is. It is a freaking honor to watch him become a big brother
The ripple effects of advocating for yourself, asking for and getting the support you need
Experiencing postpartum without being consumed by anxiety and flashbacks is delightful!
I also want to take a moment to share the The Skimm’s #showusyourchildcare campaign. I’ve definitely felt spoiled, guilty, and a bunch of other things I don’t know how to name yet about the fact that E is in daycare full time and we’ve had a night nurse four nights a week since we got home from the hospital. But here’s the thing. While this may fall under the column “privileged” this shouldn’t be the privileged or luxury version of postpartum and parenting, this should be the bare effing minimum. And I attribute this level of support to the fact that I’ve felt the space to recover physically, show up for E, and that my mental health is…healthy!
A few things I want to share with you!
This simple stretch feels amazing after feeding the baby all day and lugging around my giant boobs . I’ve been doing it a lot…
Everyone talks about the baby’s milestones at one month, but you can literally google that shit. So I’m sharing MY milestones!
Got a proper bra fitting BY MYSELF because my giant, heavy boobs were KILLING my back/neck/shoulders
Drove E to school BY MYSELF
Took E to coffee and then drove him to school BY MYSELF
Drove home from both of those outing BY MYSELF
Graduated from wearing diapers to wearing high rise granny panties
I don’t have postpartum anxiety…yet(?) ← It can show up later hence the question mark, but right now I’m feeling good!
On the podcast this past month…
Training Like A Celeb Starts With Your Breath with AJ Fisher
The Unflustered Mom: How Anxiety Helps Your Flourish with Amber Trueblood
Unfiltered Motherhood with Juanina Kocher.
Coming up on the pod…
My go-to plan for dealing with wanting to be in control when I have no control
Our first Bravolebrity, Jill Kargman is on the show! Jill and I discuss the two things she shared with me that made me feel safe, hopeful, and excited to have another baby after my rectovaginal birth (spoiler alert: Jill is also a member of Club Vaganus).
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Coming up later this summer…
Pilates For Your Privates classes! There will be options for virtual and IRL! I’m so excited to move my body and move your body and move our bodies together!
I’ve been avoiding the word workout because it feels loaded at this point? I don’t know. Too much pressure or expectation? So I’m saying movement because that feels more fun, curious, and like it has the potential to feel good. Please know this doesn’t mean easy. It means fun and feels good. I do not believe you need to feel like you’ve been hit by a truck to have done a meaningful, impactful workout. But that’s just me!
Ok, time for me to go feed the baby! There are still more pelvic floor posts coming for paid subscribers and if you want to check them out, go ahead and start your 7-day free trial now!
And I will meet you back here again soon! I’m not sure exactly when because we do not have any sort of set schedule over here and I’m not sure when there will be one! So we are flying by the seats of our pants and following The No Plan Plan! ← More about this INCREDIBLE plan next week on the podcast! So go ahead and subscribe to the show here so you don’t miss it!
As always, I’ve got your back. I’ve got your front. And I’ve got your undercarriage.
Xo, Alissa