You've probably noticed I very rarely talk about weight loss. I’m neither anti weight loss nor pro weight loss. And it’s not that I don’t notice my own weight fluctuations, or have feelings and reactions to it, of course I do!!! I notice how my clothes fit – or don’t fit!!!
I shared why I don’t weigh myself on this podcast episode.
It’s never really been my thing, weighing myself or focusing on weight loss. Since having Cameron I have weight myself more often. I don’t really have a goal weight in mind but I’m curious how the numbers line up with what I see and MY biggest gauge, how I feel & how I'm moving.
And it’s straight up coo coo bananas. Because technically I’ve lost almost all the weight I gained from pregnancy, but I still feel weird AF in my body, my handstands are still plagued by the arch in my back from pregnancy, and my splits aren't as easy as I'd like them. It's almost like...the numbers aren't the sole indicator of health, fitness, or performance...🤯
At the same time that I'm feeling weird AF in my body, I ALSO feel incredibly awesome in my body.
I’m so freaking proud. Like a lunatic on the sidelines with my face painted screaming proud of myself and my body. ← Like the Seinfeld episode where it turns out Puddy is face painter level lunatic.
I’m also ashamed and confused that things didn’t “go back.” Even though I KNOW that’s NOT a thing!!!!!!!!!!!!
I feel awesome and awkward and weird and proud and sexy and very unsexy and the number on the scale is just a number on a scale. And more and more data is coming back that weight and BMI are NOT measures of health. Do you want to read that again? It ALMOST sounds like this disordered fixation on skinny I mean healthy doesn’t have a leg to stand on… almost.
It’s confusing. Because having a body is confusing! Especially with all of the insane messaging we get about bodies and what they should and shouldn't look like, consume, wear, do, or be.
So…I could sell you weight loss. It sells! But…it won’t help with the confusion!
I care about how you feel in your body and how that’s working for you. I care about why your goals are your goals. I care about how you feel on the way to the goals and how you feel when we get you there! I also really really really care about how you feel when the goal changes. Because…it often changes…
Sometimes your goal is to get married at 25 and you get it! And it sucks ass so you get divorced.
Sometimes you have a goal to have a vaginal birth and you end up tearing your b-hole! Which sucks so you do a ton of therapy and have a c-section next time kiiiiinda wishing you’d done that the first time because it was so civilized.
Sometimes the goal isn’t even the goal! Because the goal is actually everything you learn along the way.
Omg THAT should be on a throw pillow!
Anyway! I don't sell weight loss or flat abs even though I could. Even though integrating your pelvic floor is the yellow brick road to that finish line.
I don’t and I won’t sell weight loss or flat abs even though they'll happen.
Because that’s not what it's about (even if we get both of those things along the way). It’s about how you FEEL when you make your gains. When you reach your milestones. When you do something you’ve never done before or haven’t been able to do for a while.
Like my mom always said, “It’s not about the destination, it’s the journey.” ← Yes someone else said this originally, but I don’t care, I’m crediting my mom!
So…If your goal isn’t or weren’t about changing the number on the scale, what is your goal about?
For me, my goal is always to have access to my fullest range of motion so I can do any move I want whenever I want with ease and grace. I want to dance until I die. I want to leap, turn, jump, split until the end. I want to live free from fear and pain in my body. I want MOVE forever. I want to feel powerful and confident and flexible. And when I'm working on that, the aesthetics fall into place and I look like me.
What about you? Reply to this email and let me know! I love hearing from you.
As always, I’ve got your back. I’ve got your front. And I’ve got your undercarriage.
Xo, Alissa
Ps. There is another LIVE round of online Pilates classes coming up so STAY TUNED!